The Apology

No parenting advice. No lecture. Just the structure, a suggested way to start each one, and an honest note on what tends to happen when parents try it.

I catch myself repeating what was done to me.

Every parent loses it sometimes. That is not the problem. The problem is when the rupture stays, when nothing is said, when the repair does not happen, when both of you just carry on and pretend it was fine.

Children do not need perfect parents. They need parents who come back. The willingness to return and repair is, in research and in practice, one of the things that builds real security in a child.

This guide has six steps. They are in order for a reason. Each one is small. None of them require you to be feeling calm, only to be willing to begin.

• Six repair steps in order, written for the twenty minutes after, not the lecture before
• The exact words for naming what happened, and the one word to remove from every apology you've ever given
• What to do with the silence afterward, so you're not filling it out of your own discomfort
• One small act for the day after that makes the repair real, not just said

What is inside:

• Six repair steps, written for the moment after, not the lecture before
• What the apology must include and what makes it land wrong
• What to do with the silence that follows
• The one act, the next day, that makes the repair real

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